“Boys take; men give. Boys criticize; men create.
Boys complain; men solve. Boys consume; men serve. Boys pout; men endure.”
Three truths in a man’s life:
1. I have to be intentional
2. I must rely on God
3. I need other men
From “Stepping Up—A Call to Courageous Manhood” a video series by Family Life
Answer these questions:
1. A boy becomes a man when he…2. What is the last courageous thing you have done? Have you done any?
To be a man, lead.
Remember Jeremiah 10:23-25 from last week. “I know, O LORD, that a man's life is not his own; it is not for man to direct his steps.24 Correct me, LORD, but only with justice-- not in your anger, lest you reduce me to nothing.25 Pour out your wrath on the nations that do not acknowledge you, on the peoples who do not call on your name. For they have devoured Jacob; they have devoured him completely and destroyed his homeland.”
· Genesis 2:18 – “The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."
Women will love a servant leader. A servant leader is a man who leads those he is in charge of (family, business, military unit) with the best intentions for those whom he is responsible. Not his agenda, but a respectful leader that leads quietly with measured words and by example.
· Be a protector and provider. 1 Timothy 5:8 says “If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”
Your girlfriend, wife and children must know you will lay down your life and personal agenda for their benefit.
1 Peter 3:7 – “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.” ‘Weaker partner’ means of lesser physical power; it does not mean of lesser worth.
· Grow up – be stable – measure your words.
Proverbs 18:2 – “A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions.”
Proverbs 12:16 – “A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult.”
Proverbs 12:15 – “The way of a fool seems right to him, but a wise man listens to advice.”
Proverbs 11:12 – “A man who lacks judgment derides his neighbor, but a man of understanding holds his tongue.”
2 Timothy 4:5 – “But you, keep your head in all situations, endure hardship, do the work of an evangelist, discharge all the duties of your ministry.”
Titus 1:12-16 – “Even one of their own prophets has said, "Cretans are always liars, evil brutes, lazy gluttons." 13 This testimony is true. Therefore, rebuke them sharply, so that they will be sound in the faith14 and will pay no attention to Jewish myths or to the commands of those who reject the truth.15 To the pure, all things are pure, but to those who are corrupted and do not believe, nothing is pure. In fact, both their minds and consciences are corrupted.16 They claim to know God, but by their actions they deny him. They are detestable, disobedient and unfit for doing anything good.” Don’t act like a brute (1/2 step above an animal).
1 Corinthians 13:11 – “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.”
2 Timothy 1:7 – “For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.”
Culture measures manhood by:*
o Ball field (sports arena of any kind)
o Number of toys (I added this)
*From “Stepping Up” by Family Life
Next week – What is true manhood?